Meet the Emerging Kind (tEK) team

So far we’ve introduced you to Mick from the project’s Steering committee and Elizabeth, our Peer Facilitator trainer. Today it’s the turn of Jeannet to introduce herself!

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Jeannet joined the Emerging Kind Steering committee following the Emerging Proud launch on the 12th May, offering her very valuable guidance and support, particularly with regards to governance issues.

Jeannet is a Social Worker in a hospice in her ‘day job’, and is extremely brave to speak out about her personal experiences whilst holding such a responsible position; not an easy thing to do, but absolutely necessary if we are going to achieve the paradigm shift that is so desperately needed; a shift to a non- hierarchical approach in mental health services…

Here Jeannet talks a bit about her personal journey:

Thank you Jeannet, for your dedication and support, with love from the Emerging Kind team, and Emerging Proud community ❤

 

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What Emerging Kind means to Susie

With the Emerging Kind Peers part- way through their 12-week training to hold safe space groups in their local areas, I asked if they’d be willing to share with you what being part of the project means to them.

Susie Moate, from Sussex, UK is first up, and her amazing journey through trauma to emerging transformed, epitomises the ethos of the project…

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What the Emerging Kind means to me

 In order to better explain my passion for the Emerging Kind movement, I would first like to take you through my spiritual crisis in stages, with the following headings:

  1. Prior to the crisis
  2. What my spiritual crisis looked like
  3. The immediate aftermath
  4. Integration
  5. My life now
  6. The Emerging Kind

 

  1. Prior to the crisis

Prior to the shift in my reality I had been depressed and suicidal, following a series of big stressors, including a bereavement and a relationship breakdown. In addition to these losses I also had a general feeling that my life had no value and that I was looked on by others as worthless. It sometimes felt that life was a huge competition in which I was always coming last, with low-paid and unfulfilling jobs and a string of broken relationships behind me.

 

  1. What my spiritual crisis looked like

A spiritual crisis is obviously completely different for everyone; it is also incredibly difficult to describe in words. However, I want to make an attempt as some people may never have come across this concept before.

 

My spiritual crisis arrived suddenly and unexpectedly. I had not been taking drugs and I did nothing to try to induce it. Over the course of a few days, however, I gradually entered an altered state of consciousness. I did not feel like sleeping or eating much, and my energy levels increased. As I entered this non-consensual reality, I began to see that not only was my life extremely valuable, but so was everyone’s life, and everything and everyone was interconnected in the most wonderful and joyful dance, even when it might not look that way on the surface level. I felt that I could see through to people’s beautiful souls; that every single person has a loving, beautiful soul yearning for expression.

Not just people, but plants, trees, animals, insects, birds, and all of life suddenly appeared to me to be part of the most brilliant, divine interplay – so precious, and I was full of love and respect for it all.

As I entered more deeply into the crisis, I began to remember and re-experience certain traumas from my past. I cried and wept as I released the emotions attached to them, and felt my body relax as the associated tensions melted away.

More uncomfortable emotions also rose up. I felt anger towards people whom I felt had dominated and suppressed me. Relationships in my current life mirrored some of those in my past, and I was angry with those people and I expressed that anger. This was unexpected and uncomfortable for those people, and also for others around me.

My reality had shifted so much that is was difficult to conform to people’s expectations of how I should be behaving. I seemed to have lost all fear, which was the most liberating experience ever. As anger gave way to joy and ecstasy, I wanted to sing and dance and play my violin, and I did, even when this was not really expected or appropriate. I seemed to find it almost impossible to conform to society’s usual rules and expectations.

As I released baggage from my past, and tension from my body, I also had a strong need to clear physical clutter from my surroundings. I began to give ‘stuff’ away that I no longer needed, and this, too, was alarming for those around me.

A strong transpersonal element also began to emerge in my crisis. I felt a powerful connection to the divine. I felt guided in my every move. I felt Spirit leading me, and my soul speaking to me, letting me know how it wanted to be expressed. I realized that the job I was doing did not play to my strengths, and that my vocation was to play the violin and to communicate through music. I had played the violin since I was five and reached a high standard, but for the past fifteen years or so it had barely been used, as I tapped away at computers in a succession of admin jobs, feeling bored and unfulfilled.

Unfortunately, at the height of my crisis, my total lack of respect for the usual social norms and boundaries, as well as my complete inability to remain grounded, led to me being arrested. I was subsequently taken to a psychiatric hospital where I was sectioned, and when I refused the drugs I was being offered, I was wrestled to the ground and injected with them. I was told I was extremely ill, with an illness called bipolar disorder, and it was now recommended that I take these drugs every day for the rest of my life.

 

  1. The immediate aftermath

In the aftermath of my spiritual crisis I felt frightened and alone.

My friends and family had not understood the changes in me. In their eyes I was very ill and had clearly completely lost it. When I came out of hospital some people avoided me. Perhaps I had offended them, or perhaps they just wanted to keep their distance from a ‘crazy’ person. I felt ashamed and embarrassed.

What is more, I could no longer clearly connect to the divine wisdom and guidance I had received while in the altered state. My access to the heavenly realms seemed once again to have been blocked off to some extent, and I began to wonder if I had imagined the whole thing. There were certainly plenty of people ready to tell me that, and to tell me to take the drugs, accept I was ill, and try to get back to the life I had had before. In fact, I could not find a single person in my immediate circle of friends, family or co-workers who understood or was willing to validate my interpretation of events. More depressed than ever, I returned to my job, and took the medication I had been prescribed. My spirit was broken.

However, I could neither forget, nor completely dismiss, what had happened to me. What about all the other patients in hospital whom I’d talked to? Was our mutual connection to Spirit really just a sign of how ill we were, as the psychiatrists assured us?

 

  1. Integration

Over the next few years, I read and researched voraciously. I looked online, and I read books by Stanislav Grof, amongst others. I found others who had experienced what I had, and who had interpreted it in the same way.  I was flung into a second spiritual crisis, and was once again hospitalized. If anything, the treatment was even more brutal than the previous time. However, this time other things were different. Not only was I armed with more information, but as I entered the crisis I also happened to have someone by my side who believed in me, who had been through their own spiritual crisis some thirty years previously, and emerged on the other side. This time, when I came out of hospital, I did not continue to take medication, as the psychiatrists had recommended. In fact, I never took it again.

Gradually, I began to take in, and follow, some of the wisdom and insight I had gained during my altered states. I took a course in mindfulness meditation and learnt to meditate for the first time. I went to festivals where I met other spiritually-minded people, who could validate my thoughts and feelings. I began to play the violin again, fronting a band as a Stephane Grapelli style jazz violinist. Alongside my admin job, I took a three year violin teacher training course, and began to work as a violin teacher.

Slowly, I was integrating my spiritual awakening experience into my everyday life, rather than viewing it as illness, and something that I should distance myself from.

 

  1. My life now

I now work as a violinist and violin teacher, as directed by Spirit during my first intense spiritual crisis over ten years ago. This brings me great joy. I live with my wonderful partner, Richard, whom I love very much and who is my rock, helping to ground me – and we have two beautiful daughters together.

I do still sometimes lose my connection to Spirit, usually when I’m over-stressed, but on the whole, it is gently there, guiding me.

Occasionally, if I have been meditating regularly, I drop into a zone in which events seems to flow synchronistically; in which I let go of all worries about past and future and just allow myself to be guided. It is rather like my spiritual awakening experiences, but grounded into my everyday life. When I am in this space I feel incredible love, joy and compassion for everyone and everything, and certain insights help me to see what people need or how I can help them.

 

  1. The Emerging Kind

When I came out of hospital following my first intense spiritual crisis, I felt completely isolated and confused. I desperately needed to make sense of what had happened to me, but the only model available was the medical one, the illness model which had totally invalidated my spiritual experiences. I longed for people I could talk to who had been through what I had, who interpreted things as I did. I did not necessarily realize it then, but I needed to find people who had eventually trusted the insights from their altered state and incorporated them into their lives, in order to come out on the other side of their spiritual crisis into a new way of being.

As a trained peer for the Emerging Kind, I hope to be able to provide for others what I longed for myself. The Emerging Kind will set up groups which will bring together people who have been through awakening experiences, which may have been traumatic. Members of the group will probably all be at different stages of integration of their spiritual awakening process, but we will be able to learn from each other, as well as providing validation and support for each other’s experiences and spiritual journey.

We, in the West, find it so difficult to talk about spirituality. We all have souls, and we are all connected to Spirit, but somehow many of us have lost touch with this dimension of our existence and it has become taboo to speak about it. Those who are awakening can end up confused or stigmatized, or trapped in the psychiatric system where their experiences are invalidated and pathologized. However, I am certain that change is coming. The word ‘psychiatry’ actually means ‘healing of the soul’. I envisage a mental health system in which a spiritual crisis is not only recognized as such, but welcomed by psychiatrists as an opportunity for great healing, such that a person in crisis is treated gently, with validation and understanding, enabling them to integrate their experiences and go on to lead a happier and more fulfilling life. This, in turn, will allow more and more of us to ‘wake up’ and embrace our connection to the Divine, gradually healing not just the soul of the individual, but humanity as a whole, and indeed the planet itself.

Huge gratitude to Susie for stepping up and ‘paying forward’ her gifts from crisis in order to help others; that is truly how we are healing each other and the world ❤

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The Emerging Kind store is launched!

We are excited to announce the launch of the Emerging Kind online store!

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All proceeds from tEK clothing and accessories will go into the funding pot to pay for more Peers to be trained to hold safe space groups for people going through the spiritual emergence process over the next year…  (read more about the project HERE)

Not only can you support us to spread the Emerging Kind message, you’ll look cool in ethical clothing and play a part in supporting people in crisis to feel safer in sharing their stories!

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To purchase your T -Shirt, Tea Towels and Tote Bags go to:

The Emerging Kind store

At the moment we have these two snazzy designs to choose from…

Our strapline circling tMK logo        and…          “I’m Emerging Kind” statement

 

But we’d love to add another one designed by YOU!

Would you like your very own T – Shirt design to feature in our store and be worn by people all over the world?

If you are a Peer, and resonate with the message that crises can be part of a painful journey to a positive transformation, then we invite you to send in your design and win the chance to feature as our official ‘Kinda Designer’, and of course receive your winning design on a T- Shirt for free!

Guidelines for your design are:

  • It must portray the Emerging Kind message and wording
  • Colours must compliment the current brand
  • Please send in your design in a high resolution JPEG in full colour
  • If you’d like to include our logo, feel free to request it to use for this purpose

  • To submit your design: CONTACT US HERE

We can’t wait to see what emerges; that thought makes us Kinda Happy!

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Mend the Gap, now available on personal order!

Would you like to order your own personal copy of Mend the Gap, and avoid giving Amazon most of your money? You can now order Katie’s book direct from HERE, to ensure all proceeds go towards continuing the #EmergingProud campaign…

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Meet the Team; Elizabeth, our Trainer

It’s with great pleasure I introduce you to Elizabeth Sabet, our Emerging Kind Peer Group Facilitator Trainer…

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I can’t remember how I crossed paths with Elizabeth, but I’ll be forever grateful to the Universe that we did! It’s one of those synchronistic ‘meant to be’ kind of connections. Yesterday we spent two hours on a video call together, chatting about the project, adjustments to the training program, and life in general… the exchange of love in these connections is the most rewarding part; finding people you know you can trust with your darkest parts, with no judgement or expectation to be any different from how you are. Elizabeth offers that presence, and it’s something we HOPE to offer to others, through the expansion of the Emerging Kind Peer groups all over the world.

Elizabeth has taken on the ‘no mean feat’ of being the Emerging Kind’s official Trainer, Training our Peers to hold safe space for those going through a traumatic spiritual emergence process, and what I love about her the most, is that she’s not afraid of admitting feeling overwhelmed and anxious about the task at hand. Here she explains what qualifies her for this very special role…

“My experiences began in early childhood. At the age of five I remember traveling in wormholes and having past life memories of being a rebel fighter in the American Civil War. I left my body for the first time at the age of nine. At 13, I had a spontaneous mediumship experience that was verified by a family member. Sexual trauma was a part of my childhood experience and no doubt played a part in opening me to non-linear experiences. As a child, I found most of these experiences and encounters confusing and frightening. I had no one to talk to that I could trust.

I married early and devoted myself to being a good parent. I wanted to be a good, stable parent and wife. Even though I had become accustomed to the experiences … as they arose, taking most of them in stride, my husband did not. That and the lack of fuller integration of the spiritual phenomena caused problems in my marriage. Having no safe support except for God, I asked God to make all the “weird stuff” stop.

At the age of 23, the experiences and spiritual gifts went away. I began a meditation and deep breathing practice, not realizing they would be the basis for a spontaneous and unsupported Kundalini awakening. Life would never be the same. The yearning to be of service became overwhelming. I was not satisfied or happy no matter how materially wonderful our life was. My longing to serve caused problems in the marriage as my husband was not supportive of this change in me. My new-found desire to be with God, not through death, but through a life of service and devotion to others beyond our family unit, was a disruption to our normally peaceful lives.

To preserve the marriage, I gave up all service work and slowly began to feel like I was dying. The unhealthy coping mechanisms of my teenage years returned, and I was privately falling into a life of darkness. I opted for divorce after 21 years of marriage, hoping to find redemption. Within two years of filing for divorce, I co-created with friends a community dedicated to developing authentic relationships and acceptance.

Being part of the HOPE community helped me integrate and ground the content of my experiences. I was also able to mature those still underdeveloped aspects of the self that had not been attended to in the past. Group connection and having meaningful work in an accepting community gave me the loving support and accountability I needed to process and synthesize more of my experience. If it were not for my community and support network, I certainly wouldn’t be doing the work I am doing now.

HOPE was not created specifically for spiritual experiencers but—due to the nature of the community—we certainly attracted a lot of them! As one of the community leaders with many spiritual experiences, I seemed to attract people who would privately share their own experiences with me because they knew they were safe. Eventually I become a certified coach and began working professionally with experiencers. HOPE also began offering spiritual growth support groups.

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I was invited to join the board of ACISTE in 2015 and am so grateful for the opportunity to be of service!

Why Create Local Support Groups and Community Networks?

Myself and many others are living proof that the benefits of being involved in support groups are long lasting and can positively affect relationships with family, friends, and your work in the world.

Here are just a few of the benefits commonly experienced in safe and accepting groups:

  • Reduced feelings of isolation
  • New and more authentic friendships
  • The opportunity to share things one may never have shared before
  • Permission to explore meaning and purpose
  • A deeper understanding of what it means to be spiritually integrated
  • Increased capacity to be more grounded, focused, and purposeful

ACISTE is dedicated to creating and facilitating the development of experiencer support groups.

It is a pleasure to begin to serve a more expanded community of spiritual experiencers through ACISTE, and now with the Emerging Kind. I look forward to connecting with you and your community soon!”

Elizabeth Sabet, PCC, ACSLC works as a Certified Professional Transformational/Spiritual Coach in private practice, is the Founder and CEO of The Institute of Transformational and Transpersonal Coaching, and the co-founder and former Executive Director of HOPE in Lubbock, Texas. She has recently become President for ACISTE. 

Find out more about ACISTE here: https://aciste.org

Together we are helping to create a society where it’s safer to talk about spiritual experiences; together we are creating the emerging paradigm.

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Calling All Artists!

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We know from the incredible donations to the campaign, blog and film so far, that there are many amazing artists in the Emerging Proud community; would you like to get your personal creation onto our Emerging Kind project T-Shirts, and have people wearing your design all over the world?

We’re going to be setting up an Emerging Kind store on Teemill to raise some funds to ensure we can continue the project, hopefully indefinitely; training up more and more Peers to create safe space groups for people to journey through the spiritual emergence process together.

Our first job is designing a T-Shirt for sale, and we’d love for one of the Emerging Kind Peers or a ‘proud #Emergee’ to design the artwork that will go on them

The only stipulation is for the design to be based around, and include in the design, our strapline;

‘Inside All of Us is the Power to Change the World’

The creator of the chosen design will of course get the first free T-Shirt and be credited as the official designer.

Any ideas / designs please send them our way…get set; get designing!

Thank you, with love from tEK team 

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Meet the Emerging Kind team!

Yesterday we held the first Steering Group meeting for our new ‘The Emerging Kind tEK’ project. I thought you might like to meet the team in more detail, so today it’s with great pleasure I introduce you to Dr Mick Collins, tEK advisor and all- round ‘good egg’!

Mick is an Author, University Lecturer with a Phd, Therapist and Coach, but most importantly identifies as a Peer himself…

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Some of you will remember Mick from his Emerging Proud interview, from which I’ve taken this snippet to emphasize why ‘kindness’ is so important to those going through the  often very traumatic spiritual emergence process. The Peer groups that the Emerging Kind project aims to create worldwide will offer the kind of support that Mick describes as being vital in helping him when he went through his own crisis, initiated through meditation and repressed trauma…

Follow the blog to hear more about the Emerging Kind team, and the amazing Peers who have Emerged Proud and stepped up to be trained to hold safe spaces for those in need; together you are helping to create the new paradigm in mental health care, and we are so very grateful to you all ❤

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